Before the Windows Close

Dear Mr. Screamy,

You live on my street. My office window must face one of yours. My early evenings are often ruined by your booming, violent voice.

I’m not sure exactly where you live, or I would have called the police by now. You’re somewhere just over there, through that cluster of trees, in one of the duplexes — I think.

I walk by the house I think you live in during the day when I’m sure you’re not there, and I do so very slowly. Who is she? What in the world have you done to her so that she’ll stay through your nightly tirades of abuse? Who was she? What could she possibly have done to warrant the words that so easily flow off your wicked tongue?

It’s worse on Sundays when the Broncos play. We can all hear you cheering and jeering your television. You do so with the bravado of a kindergarten student in the talent show who just can’t get enough attention from his mommy.

Look here! Look at me! Look how great I am!

I am looking at you, you petty, insecure thug.  If you continue to speak to your girlfriend/wife/sister that way — I will find you. I will rally the other neighbors and we will see at a minimum the police get in your house, write you a ticket for being a dickhead and make sure whomever you’ve decided to use as your verbal punching bag knows there are other options.

I promise to do this before the windows close to the cold in a few weeks. We’re listening.




17 Replies to “Before the Windows Close”

  1. Great idea Kelli ………….get the ass…. out of her life, let her know she has worth….any type of abuse is insidious……..I encountered a woman the other day at the Safeway and she was pulling her little girl behind her so hard and fast that the child fell and the mother started screaming at her……..I told her very quietly that she was being abusive and it is usually a learned behavior and that she could stop the chain….she didn’t say a word, but walked away with a scowl, but, for that child ‘s sake I hope it made her think…….It is the right thing to do do to let the wife,sister, mother know this is extremely damaging to her spiritual growth and she must not pass it on. I think you know that my father abused me in all the ways you can abuse a child and I am most proud that when I recognized those same behaviors in me, I immediately sought help. I changed and my children are not abusive to the spouses or children……

  2. Kelli,

    We had a similar situation in the first apartment we lived in. If I hadn’t been a young, naive 19 year old I would have gotten involved. Thank you for having the courage to do something about this thug. I am still amazed at the ignorant bullies who walk among us and the women who think they don’t have an alternative but to stay.

  3. A terrible memory from my teenage years involves living in a very cool duplex house with my mom–I had the 3rd floor, she had the second so it was very very cool. Anyway, the house next door was divided into apartments and for a good few months, I would go to sleep with the sound of the dude next door beating up and screaming at his girlfriend. Did I tell my mom? I don’t think I did and I still feel bad about it.

  4. Pretty sure he’s three doors down. Top level of the duplex with the big barking dog. Ask Emily and Richard two doors down if they know anything or can confirm. Ashamed I never reacted, but it had just started shortly before you moved in. Lots of turnover in that place.

  5. Omg, seriously you’re hearing domestic abuse nightly? That would make me so sad and so angry at the same time. Keep us posted!

  6. At three am when I couldn’t sleep, hearing you say … writing a man a ticket for being a dickhead made me laugh so hard.

    I am currently writing a man a ticket for the very same thing.

  7. Keep listening and make that call when you can. There is no excuse for domestic violence, and we all need to intervene, safely, when we can, as often as we can. Much, much love to you…Please be careful.

  8. Ok, this comment comes from personal experience. When you’re in an abusive relationship you often fear the one that’s either being mentally abusive or physically abusive. You’ll do almost anything to avoid being bullied, hit or yelled at and often someone just stepping in to help will have back lashes on the woman after the one trying to help leaves. A lot of these women live their days in fear, even if the husband/boyfriend isn’t in the house.

    And those I’ve tried to help leave their abusive situation often fear the person way to much to leave as most will hunt them down. It’s a never ending cycle until the woman gets angry enough to leave to a battered woman’s shelter. The shelter is kept secret and often well guarded. I spent a month in one with my infant son.

    The way things work is the man will usually try to get back with his wife/girlfriend promising that he’ll do better, which most women believe almost every time. Sadly, it doesn’t take long for said boyfriend to be back into his old ways.

    When you get into a situation you do put yourself at risk especially if the man has a gun, knife, or is very strong and aggressive. And if they are on drugs, things of this nature can give a person super human strength for a while.

    Call the police next time you hear it happening and keep your distance for your safety. Police are trained to handle these sort of situations. Social training is part of their learning. Thing is, even though the police might step in, if both “lie” and say nothing is wrong..then there is nothing the police can do. Only reason they can do something is if they either see the abuse happening or if the one being abused presses charges or if the one being abused asks for help leaving the home. And if both have been battling each other and have scratches, bruises, what have you, then both can be taken in.

    Just keep your ear out and be careful.

  9. Wowsers, what a douche. From my experience cops hate violent assholes too, so chances are the next time you hear him, cops will be out there quickly if you direct them to the right place.

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