The Secret of Success

swing bag, key chain

Last week I watched an episode of Oprah about “The Secret.” Did you catch this? In a nutshell, it is a self-help mantra affirming you can do absolutely anything in life you set your mind to. Ask, believe, receive and watch the world fall to your feet for the taking. The show was convincing and I didn’t need much persuading. One of my greatest blessings has been being told from an early age to shoot for the moon. We were nurtured in a “can do” home. My mom has always been my “biggest cheerleader” — as she puts it. And so it should be!

swing bag, matching key chain

Is there anything keeping you from happiness? I have a short list of asks, although I am a happy, goofy girl as is. That said, I’m never content with the status quo. I always want to learn more, run faster, be better. Now the task is to take steps toward making my “asks” come true and believing with every inch that they will.

For example — I’m wearing a fabulous pair of jeans, my first pair of Manolos and a huge grin. My parents are nervously sitting in the front row. My brother is sitting next to them texting on his cell phone. The Ya Yas are in the row behind them, tearing up and taking photos. Oprah reaches over and shakes my hand and congratulates me on being the next author selected for her book club. I nod, in awe that this dream is unfolding. The audience has read my book. Not everyone loves it, but everyone has read it. They want to talk about it. They ask questions. The characters come to life. I feel a wave of butterflies as I take it all in and devour the conversation. Giddyup.

swing bag, open

A new bag and key chain (my first) for a friend at the bagel shop. She’s moving on from bagels to the business world and I figured, “Who doesn’t want a new purse on the first day of a new job?”

I’m asking and believing. What are you asking for?


23 Replies to “The Secret of Success”

  1. Looks nice!

    Good for you! I know you can do it.

    I am asking for a job and a divorce. Hmm…they seem to be coming true. I KNOW the divorce and I am positive thinking about the FT job. πŸ˜‰

  2. The bag and key chain are wonderful gifts, Kelli–great job!

    I have “The Secret” DVD and meditation CD. The whole concept is uplifting. I’m already trying some of the techniques and believe they are really making a great difference in my life. As to what I’m asking and believing–a stronger sense of self with a healthier positive self-confidence.

  3. ..for time to watch Oprah. πŸ™‚ I was just thinking the other day that it had been a long time since I’d watched adult TV programming. I don’t watch much TV, and when I do – it’s always more fascinating to my toddler than for myself.

    I think my “ask” would be: to find more of myself. I am a mother, and I martyr myself to some extent. My priorities must lie with my child, but I think I could do a better job of balancing it. Lately, “myself” has been in a February slump. Some simple things would make me more richly happy: Taking time to find old friends that I’ve lost in the process of moving so many times. Forging ahead with art & craft, even when the motivational spirit is lacking. Focusing more attention on my husband, because it feels so good when I don’t let that “disconnect” that comes with parenting – exist. Finding peace in what I have, where I am now, rather than wishing for “more.”

  4. Great post. This is a hard one… need to give it some thought and sort out the “wants” from the “needs.” I may want a lot of things, but what would truly make me happy? Hmmm.

  5. My mom recorded the show & I desperately need to watch it stat. My attitude has been pretty piss poor as of late. Of course a moldy apt, bent rim, etc. have lead me to this foul mood. But hey… what can I say. I love the bag you made…and the hook it’s hanging on!

  6. I totally believe that vision leads to reality. As you know, I grew up in a similar household where my family always said that you can be whatever you want to be. I’ve found that once you establish a clear vision of what you truly desire, it is only a matter of time before it happens. Your life tends to mold itself into those things that you visualize most clearly.

    My proudest moment was the day my mom came into SF to visit me at my first professional job. There we were standing on Battery Street, looking up at the fancy ad agency where I was employed, fresh from lunch at MacArthur Park when she said, “See Jessie (she calls me Jessie), you did it! You really did it! Never forget you can do anything you set your mind to.”

    Darn it if the woman isn’t right. The clearer my vision, the more likely it will materialize.

    Oh, and I’ll be there, too — YaYa or no — making a mess of myself on Oprah cheering for you.

  7. What a cool purse! I’m sure your friend will be touched by your thoughtfulness.

    I can’t wait until your episode airs! πŸ™‚ Well, I guess the book is first, right? So I can’t wait to read *it* first – then I can look forward to Oprah.

  8. I used to always believe that but as of late life gets me down. It think the responsiblity of being my Mom’s caregiver is wearing me down and I don’t know how to change it. I used to be able to loose myself in my pottery but can’t do that now. Too bad I didn’t see that show, maybe I need a good kick in the butt. I also wish I could actually wear Manolos but my hip won’t allow it. Gorgeous it…ciao

  9. Saw the show. Do believe it’s true. My list is taking a lot longer than I had hoped. Still positive tho. Love the purse. What a great friend you are. Gosh, if I visualize a great bagel shop in Hollywood (that opens before 7) will it happen? Gonna start trying for that!

  10. I really try hard to make my kids believe that they can do anything they want to. My husband is a bit of a ‘no’ person, but I do my best to be a ‘yes!’ person and I hope my kids inherit that.

    Hope your dreams come true!

  11. My favorite quote, which my mom passed on to me in college, is “Whatever you can do, or dream you can, do it. Do it now. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it.” (attributed to Goethe but I recently heard it may have been someone else) Every time I feel stuck or down on myself, I remember that and it always gives me the guts I need.

    Great bag! I love the shape.

  12. I can’t wait to be in the audience when you’re on Oprah, I can be, right? πŸ™‚

    I am a firm believer in positivity and having that “can-do” attitude. And hey – I quit my job yesterday to work my dream job so I guess maybe it’s working. πŸ™‚

    Happy Valentine’s Day! Your bag is really really gorgeous. Nice work (again). πŸ™‚

  13. What a nice friend you are, I’m sure she will love the bag and nice choice of colors, will go with anything. I only saw part of Oprah and it was weird because I couldn’t tell you the last time I had watched her, probably 6 months or more. The secret is how I have always thought and believe things will work or not, kind of nice to see I’m not the only one. I myself have a problem with the actions part…LOL..anyhow when you finish your book can I get a signed copy?..LOL

  14. No way. One of my instructors at the gym were talking about the Secret during the class the other day! Small world. Well, I guess if it’s on Oprah that takes it out of the small world category! You should watch “What the Bleep Do We Know”. It’s great.

    By the way, I was getting ready to go to the pool over the weekend and I was looking for a small bag to put my ipod, cell phone, and keys in. I couldn’t find anything. I thought to myself, I could really use one of those wristlets! πŸ˜‰

  15. Can’t wait to assign your book to all my students when I finally achieve my dream of being an English prof!

    Thanks for sharing your own encouraging spirit with the Web world. I really needed a boost tonight and your post was perfect. I ordered the book as a treat for just surviving today and will keep you posted on how those dreams turn out!

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